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Peer Adviser Post: Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships
By F. Elias Boujaoude CC '13



Okay, so you’ve found the perfect person…funny, charming, endearing, intelligent, attractive, you name it.  Everything is going just right, you’re smooth, you’re cool, you’re ready to take the next step.  There is just one problem…you are on the brink of, dare I say it…a LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

Long distance relationships are certainly not easy and many people seem to be turned off completely with the idea of having a partner xyz distance away.  Whether it’s an hour drive or 3 million light-years via hyper speed space travel, here are some tips and tricks for making a long distance relationship work.

  1. Acknowledge the challenge.
    Most people just approach a long distance as if it’s no big deal---well, I got news for you, the only person you are fooling is yourself!  Being away from someone you love is never an easy thing and acknowledging it and telling your partner you miss them actually strengthens your relationship.  It lets the other person know you have been thinking about them and miss their company.  There is a limit however, crying on the phone every time you talk isn’t going to get you anywhere, it’s about balance.
  1. Yes, the little things still count, if not more so.
    Everyone likes little surprises like a rose after a long day of work, a short text that says “miss u, cnt wait to c u,” etc.  Just because you are not physically close to your partner, that doesn’t mean you are exempt from giving them the attention they deserve.  Arranging flowers to be sent to work or their friends decorating their room for a special occasion on your behalf may take some extra effort on your part, but it’s an excellent way to show them how much you care and to maintain that sense of connection.
  1. Make time for each other.
    If you can’t physically be with someone, the next best thing is talking, or texting, or skyping, whatever it may be.  Different things work for different people but if you are committed to a long distance relationship, that person still needs to find time into your schedule. If you prefer texting, maybe try talking to your partner via phone instead, that way you have something unique in your relationship that sets it apart from the other everyday forms of communication. But, of course, do what works for you.  The most important thing is to TALK and talk frequently.  Whether or not you need to block off specific times to talk to your partner is entirely dependent on who the two of you are, but long distance cannot survive without basic communication.

Well, that’s all for now…do not fear the dreaded long distance relationship… embrace it, work it, commit to it and things will work out for the best! 

Happy Valentine’s Day from your Peer Advisers!!!  :)

If you have questions or comments please email your Peer Advisers at: csapeeradvising@columbia.edu


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